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Comment by Rajesh K.Pathak on October 23, 2010 at 12:52am

Dear Friends, This is comment by Mr.Sanjay(by e-mail) "Behaviourism is all about Sanskar. If any1 says that some1's behaviour has no concern with his Sanskar, I won't b agree. But coming to ur point what I feel our culture is reach but on a large scale we biharis are failled to save our reach culture we were not able to introduce it strongly generation wise as a result 4past we have many example for reach culture but a few in present."

Comment by Rajesh K.Pathak on October 1, 2010 at 12:28am

Terrorists, maoists, naxals are also products of 'Sanskar'.

Comment by Anand Kumar on September 30, 2010 at 10:02am

Hi Rajesh,

Pleased to see that you initiate good topics for the discussion. Sanskar and Behavior/Behaviorism is a relative term but not one and the same.

Sanskar in a layman's term is the set of social values, family values, morality, etiquettes, customary knowledge and good cultural norms which is bequeathed or shared to each individuals by the active and passive communication from his or her's family members, parents and grand parents.

Behavior on the other hand refers to the actions or reactions of an object or organism, usually in relation to the environment. Behavior can be conscious or subconscious, overt or covert.

Relation : By the above explanation we can conclude that Sanskar is the input and Behabior is the output. We tend to act, think and contemplate according to the Sanskar we have or the way we have been brought up by our parents.

Example: When we see that a boy/girl is "Nalayak", we say that he has been brought up in a wrong "Sanskar"or given wrong family values. And we not only condemn the wrong doer but also condemn his parents who brought him up.

Sanskar & Behaviorism in Biharis: I have seen many families of Bihar. And I too am a Bihari. Every parents try to give a right sanskar to their children. Every parents want that their child/ren become a gentleman/lady, do good things and be like, "ram is a Good Boy'. However there is a vast gap between the sanskar what we have been bequeathed and the behavior we do. Why? This is the core issue.

There are many proverbs applicable to this issue. Let me say some:
1. Good words well pronounced.
2. Muh mein ram, Bagal mein Choori.
3. Chirag talae andhera.
4. Jiska Jad(root) hi kharab ho to ooska patta(leaf) to kharab hoga hi.
5. Jaisa Baap waisa beta.
6. As you sow so shall you reap.

And you or the friend list will think of many more proverbs.

These examples signify that one should act in a good way so that his/her child will get a live example to emulate. Simply telling won't work. Better act then say. U want yr child to be honest and good but you take bribe. You want your child to behave well but you have never shown him/her with a good example. You want your child to speak good words and you keep often abusing, cursing, criticizing your neighbors.

Now one more visible things in Bihar is that every parents want to educate their child in English medium school where they think they will get good education, good behavior and will become a gentleman/lady. I agree that education is the most important component of Sanskar. However I have a conviction that Education starts from home and todays schools/colleges do not give education rather they share knowledge. And there is great difference between Knowledge and Education.

Bihar has a rich heritage and classic culture but weak foundation. All the good Sanskar what we get is either not imbibed by us or is lost in the mist of social difference, cast conflict, political corruption and pseudo Family Values. That is the reason we do not behave according to the sanskar we have been given. I do not say that everybody is behavior less. There are many of us who are far better than any body in this world. But the world does not see few, it goes with the majority. And the rest we know that how we are considered in other parts of our own Country.

State politics, social set up and family values play the most important role building a Noble Collective Face of the Society. We have failed to prove to others that we are no less than them.

Brothers, sisters, friends and all, I request you to leave behind these differences, set good examples for yourself and generations to come. Never support the evil. Evils in any face is an evil and it will not only corrupt you or me but the whole of the society. After these many years of "Backward Race", lets move forward to build a "Golden Bihar".

Rebuild Magadh, Glorify Takshila, Restore Nalanda, Enlighten Bodh Gaya and
let the Holy Ganges Flow Pure.

Love & Regards to one and All.

Comment by Rajesh K.Pathak on September 28, 2010 at 6:48pm

@Bikram ji, It is not wrong to be patriotic or nationalist, we need tobe like that otherwise our country will be invaded by foreign enemy from time to time. But I feel you do not have nationalistic approach of mind and jut blaming others. Every bharatwasi is my friend and every Bihari, but in your case?

Comment by Bikram Yadav on September 28, 2010 at 6:10pm

I too donot find any wrong if there is any cut paste but important is that what message we are imparting Subodh learn some sanskar else read the comment posted by some bharatwasi(I feel person obsessed with patriotism)

Comment by Mukund Jha on September 28, 2010 at 5:59pm

@ Pathak Ji, I read your Post and really liked that because you sticked to your blog's subject line and that was very user friendly and easily to understand for not so intellect person like me, but then come Subodh ji's comment which was no where related to subject and frankly speaking, I did not understand what he mean to say. Then I thought of giving a chance to google it out, and then comes the source in picture, which was more knowledgeable and understandable for person like me. If some one has to copy paste just for the sake of participating in a discussion without touching the core line, they are welcome. But giving source will only enhance our knowledge, don't you think so??? Jealousy is human nature, but he has not done anything so special which I feel jealous about.

Comment by akshay anand on September 28, 2010 at 5:22pm

There is no problem if some one is doing copy paste kind of work, but need to mention source if any from where the content has been taken. This will only increase our knowledge because as I checked the given source, there are lots of stuff related to Sanskar which Mr. Subodh missed. I think he just put some points from here and there from the given source and pasted here.

Comment by Rajesh K.Pathak on September 28, 2010 at 5:09pm

@Mukund ji, if you know better than subodh ji, please go ahead with your comment even copy and paste is welcomed, so that we can also increase our knowledge! Just commenting without reason and intellectuality will not work it looks like you are pulling leg of your friend once he starts climbing ladder of success, is this coz of jealosy nature or something else?

Comment by Mukund Jha on September 28, 2010 at 3:15pm

@ Subodh Kumar - http://sanskaramvatika.com/why.html

Good Job of Copy and paste, keep it up............

Comment by Subodh Kumar on September 28, 2010 at 3:06pm

The meaning of the word 'Sanskar' is to purify, to refine, to supplement, to brighten, and to adorn the inner conscience of Human.
Sanskar' is a process, which transforms a person into an ideal & outstanding personality by eradicating/controlling the negative mental tendencies existing in him and by inculcating human values & qualities to make him more dynamic, discreet, duty conscious and responsible towards himself as well as family and the society.
Sanskar' is like plantation of a seed of human values into the subconscious of a person during his childhood so that adherence of these values becomes part of his nature and keeps on guiding him throughout his life. A person acts according to the ideals which exist in his subconscious without being aware of them. Thus his decisions, his reactions to actions of others and the quality of his actions depend upon the values existing in his subconscious.
Sanskar' purifies feelings, thoughts and actions/deeds and adds momentum of life.
Sanskar purifies inner conscious of the person and makes life meaningful.
Sanskar' adds good conduct, good thoughts and human qualities to a man's personality and sublimates his mind.
Sanskar forms a culture and develops social values.
Behaviour of a person are always according to his inner values. The Behaviour and Sanskar are integrated to each other.