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Permalink Reply by Abhishek on September 17, 2010 at 6:38pm

Why do so late man! Everybody knows the answer before questioned and many live this answer merrily but unmindful. This is but natural an urge. Puritans, be spared.

But No. Such indulgence is not prescribed before one reaches a level of maturity. Else, it sucks you of life and focus that helps best transformation from adoloscence to puberty to teen and finally in to a healthy adult.

There is a time and suitability for anything and everything and mind you this wisdom has evolved through generations and ages of practices. We are as much animal as others around us. But we are also human. That is why various civilisations have developed in the history of mankind. These civilisations are about the way of life we observe in order to organise our individual and collective living better.

Caution: This prescription should not be taken as a cursive dictat. This is one among innumerable dos and donts that has helped sustain and evolve humanity to this date.

regards.

RAJ VARDHAN said:

I WILL HIGHLY RESPECT TO WHOM PEOPLE WHO ARE THE AGAINST THE PREMARRIAGE SEX IF THEY HAD NOT DONE IN PAST AND FUTURE ALSO.PLEASE THINK ABOUT IT CAREFULLY AND YOU CAN TAKE SOME DAY FOR THINK ABOUT THIS TOPIC THEN ANSWER ME.
ALL ARE WELCOME HERE.

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Permalink Reply by SANJAY on September 19, 2010 at 11:21am

Pre-martial sex is very much acceptable only when both of them are matured enough & they are willing to do this.

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Permalink Reply by Dr. Ajay Kumar on September 22, 2010 at 1:11am

Premarital sex....!!! I am delighted that youngsters in Bihar are now getting brave and liberal. I must add that having lived fo40 years in UK, my attitude and thinking will always be western. Therefore what I am going to say, may not be on same wavelenght as people living in Bihar. Besides, being much older than people taking part in this debate, and as a doctor, I feel I should participate too.

In our country (UK), sex education is a cumpulsory part of education in all schools. It is not about love making, but a scientific knowledge of male and female reproductive organs, sexually transmitted disease, body changes that occurs at the age of 13-14, reproduction etc. Sadly, in India, we do not have such education and many youngsters are ignorant about sex, its implications and the likes.

In today's globalised world of information age, when youn males and females are ineracting together in work place, it is inevitable that premarital sex will take place. Is it wrong ? I don't think so. BUT, the choice is entirely on male and female. If they want, yes; if they don't, no. Sexual intercourse is a natural human act. Marriage is a social contract. In today's materialistic world, when society is breaking down, this contract becomes suspect. That is why, many people choose to cohabi, have children, just as any married couple.

Youngsters today are more mature than we were at the age of 15-25. Condom is freely available in India. So if male and female choose to have sex, yes, go ahead, but make sure aboutsafety of the opposit partners. Use condom to prevent pregnancy, sexually transmitted disease, and other traumas. But, as I stressed, it has to be mutually consented. And yes, having a sexual relationship with someone, doesn't mean it must always lead to marraige.

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Permalink Reply by Abhishek on September 22, 2010 at 7:23am

All said and done, it is all pervading in our backyards, be it incest or outside! We are second to none. As for acceptance, we have generations to live before consenting sex outside marriage is no crime.

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Permalink Reply by Abhishek on September 22, 2010 at 12:38pm

Hope, people take some leaf out of this discourse and behave in maturity.

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Permalink Reply by Mukund Jha on September 22, 2010 at 7:36pm

@ Dr. Kumar – I like your blogs. May be I am deviating a little bit from the main topic, but just want to clear something, firstly I would like to tell you that all private schools in metros
have already started compulsory sex education one year back and the
same will be applied to all schools across country including government
one by next year for students of age group 11.
Secondly you have mentioned “In our country (UK)” in your
blog, which seems bothering me that why you are doing such a noble thing (ref : BIHAR : Its place in shaping human civilization.) in Bihar which doesn’t belong to your country (UK).

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Permalink Reply by Dr. Ajay Kumar on September 25, 2010 at 1:42am

Mr. Mukund Jha. You have a very valid point in raising my statement "Our country". Look, I have lived in England for 40 years, I am a citizen, all my life, I paid my tax at higher rate. My children were born, educated in public schools (in India, one call them Private school), I lost my wife here. Besides, England gave me professionally, socially, financially, recognition for my labour which is way beyond the dreams of many. I have left two legecy in my town I live which will last for generations. The moral is, when the adopted country shower everything you wished for, then we must develop soft corner, loyalty, and obedience for our adopted country, but at the same time, never forgetting the love and attachment to the country of birth where our life began and therefore, our sentimental attachment must lie. When we learn this, we have no hang ups under which flag we will assemble or which Cricket team we should chher up. Not knowing this, leads to confused mind and identity crisis.

I am really delighted that private schools in India are imparting sex education to children and soon government schools will do so. As a doctor, I strongly feel that this is done. I want our kids to be on par with kids in western world. And equip them to exceel in life.

Mukund Jha said:

@ Dr. Kumar – I like your blogs. May be I am deviating a little bit from the main topic, but just want to clear something, firstly I would like to tell you that all private schools in metros
have already started compulsory sex education one year back and the
same will be applied to all schools across country including government
one by next year for students of age group 11.
Secondly you have mentioned “In our country (UK)” in your
blog, which seems bothering me that why you are doing such a noble thing (ref : BIHAR : Its place in shaping human civilization.) in Bihar which doesn’t belong to your country (UK).

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Permalink Reply by Pradeep Kumar Singh on September 28, 2010 at 10:28pm

Man is a social animal . अपने देश मे विवाह-पूर्व सम्बंध सही नही होगा मेरे खयाल से क्योंकि विवाह के बाद पति-पत्नी दोनो एक-दुसरे के प्रति शंकालु रह्ते हैं और बाद मे विवाह-पूर्व सम्बंध की जब वे विवेचना करेंगे तब मामला विषाक्त हो जायेगा और आंशिक समभावना ही रहेगी दोनो के सम्बंध पूर्ववत बने रहने की ...

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Permalink Reply by Manish Kumar Rai on November 16, 2010 at 1:24pm

Ofcourse It is not acceptable. It is against our Indian culture. It will ruin our tradition.
If someone support about this....... What would happen if his sister or daughter will accept premarital sex ????

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